SEX BEGETS SEX:

Reclaiming Desire, Power, & Pleasure in Long-Term Love

By: Caroline Hood

Women and couples are told their desire inevitably disappears over time and within long-term partnerships.

It doesn’t.

We are in the middle of a cultural shift. Women are reclaiming power, agency, and ownership over their lives. But sex and desire are lagging behind. In long-term relationships, we’re still told the same story: desire fades, sex becomes an obligation, and passion is something we must leave behind.

Women and couples were never meant to disappear inside their own lives, inside motherhood, inside partnership, or inside responsibility, exhaustion, caregiving, and routine.

Desire is not frivolous and it does not inevitably fade over time.

As a Sex & Relationships Writer and author of Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire, Power, & Pleasure in Long-Term Love, I explore desire, intimacy, and the stories that shape them.

Drawing on my experience as a licensed clinical social worker with a certification in sex therapy, wife, and mother of three, I write about the complicated, contradictory, and deeply human realities of desire, intimacy, and long-term love. My work blends personal narrative, clinical insight, and cultural commentary to help people rethink what they've been taught about sex and relationships.

I offer a bold counterpoint to common beliefs about sex: that sex dwindles over time, sex must be spontaneous to be pleasurable, good sex is reserved for youth or novelty, and a long-term relationship equals the inevitable death of a fun, thriving sex life.

I offer support around creating rituals and rhythms, communication, remembering the playful ethos of sex, redefining sex as more than intercourse, lowering the stakes and the pressure, and having more sex—because frequency is a driver of pleasure, not just the outcome of it.

Because…Sex Begets Sex.

Sex Begets Sex is a heart-to-heart with your trusted girlfriend, who happens to be a sex therapist. It’s the real conversation you wish you were having, but never quite have the nerve to bring up.